At 24 years old, I feel powerful because my life experiences have made me feel confident. This article is about sharing what I’ve learnt in my life so far, aiming to ‘inspire’ (quotation marks there because I don’t really like that word) you to look at certain things from a different light.
Always trust your instinct
It might be scary and even too much sometimes, but if your instinct is telling you something, just trust it. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t come up with a rational plan for your actions because don’t get me wrong, we’re rational beings as we are emotional, but use your instinct as a guide. Mine was never wrong, or better yet, mine always led me to beautiful destinations and I’m sure yours will too.
Don't let anyone bring you down
Some people will always think they know better about everything. They don’t. No one knows what’s best for you better than yourself. If someone tries to bring you down and not giving you actual advice or ‘feedback’ (careful with this feedback though because it’s not well intended all the time), there’s no point to listen to their opinion. You know phrases like ‘I’m not sure if you should do that’ or ‘I think your priorities are not set straight’, I personally understand where they come from, but it’s important how the person communicates it to you. These two affirmations show lack of knowledge because no one can ever tell you which are your priorities. Don’t let other people bring you down with the way they speak to you even though it’s non-intentional. Use positive words and explain how that can affect your relationship. If they do want to bring you down, just distance yourself from that poisonous relationship. Easy!
Believe in your own power to succeed
Cliche or not, this is one of the best pieces of advice I could give you. I touched on the importance of believing in your own power to succeed in this article. If you haven’t read it yet, have a look at it for a more in-depth chat. What I would love for you to do right now is to picture where you want to get and believe with your whole heart that you have to get there. Guess what? You will! There were situations in my life when I had to believe in myself and my power to succeed and without that inner strength I’m not sure that I would have gotten to where I am today. Had to have a lot of strength when I moved on my own at 19 to study marketing in the UK, when I quit my job just to find another one two weeks later and to quit that new one after two weeks because it wasn’t a match! Be bold and don’t look back, as hard as it may be.
See the good in people first
It took me a while to be good at this to be honest. I used to be judging others and be more inclined to dislike new people rather than give them a fair chance. I haven’t analysed why but the point is that now I welcome people in my life and start seeing the good in them from the beginning! I encourage you to do the same because you never know who can become your absolute best friend.
Give your best to make your friends feel amazing
When you have friends over or when you meet up out give your best to make them feel great in your company. Leave your negative vibes aside and be the persons who says ‘you look so pretty today’! When they do stay over, make sure they feel at home. Look at all little details that can make their stay amazing: ear pods, night masks, chargers, welcome gifts, carefully prepare food. Give them a stay to remember. It will make you so happy to offer something from your heart and your relationship will only become better and better.
Give 100% in everything you do
Do things with passion and put your 100% in everything you do: projects, relationships, university work. Only this way, you can be the best version of yourself.
Be dedicated to achieving your goals
Sometimes we don’t feel like putting in the work or we often prefer to hang out than put in the effort. Goal achievement is a lot of work, a lot of ups & downs and most importantly is a lot of dedication. Don’t think that people who succeeded did so over night. You need to be dedicated, passionate and absolutely sure you’ll do your best.
Motivate yourself when you're feeling down
I have some moments when I’m not as motivated, when I’d rather watch YouTube than work out for example. In those moments, I am motivating myself to get out and do it. Having that end goal in mind is so essential when it comes to motivation. Sometimes, I do feel down and I put myself in a better mood by lighting a candle or reading a few pages of a good book. I totally recommend finding your own motivation routine: podcasts, books, videos to keep yourself on the right track.
Get surrounded by people aspiring to something great
You know how important it is to have people who are doing great around you? Energy is transferable and good energy is really contagious. It’s equally important that your friends not only do great, but aspire to do better all the time.
Don't give up when things go though
EASY to say, right? Just practice your own motivation techniques and believe in yourself to have the power to continue when things get though. It’s the hard part of the process of evolution, but it’s paying off.
It's ok to have bad days
Yes, you can motivate yourself and yes it may not work one day and that’s ok. Accept yourself. Accept your moods.
Learn the admin things early
Let me tell you, either you like it or not life admin things make you a responsible person. Read online about opening a credit card to improve your credit score, learn how to better pack and move houses, research buying your own car to be less dependent on public transportation. The sooner you learn all these things, the better for you!
Allow yourself a bit of time to learn something new often
One of my favourite things to do is to learn something new about history, interior design or different cultures. I often browse the Netflix section for documentary / lifestyle shows that not only entertain me, but teach me something new as well! It helps me stay updated and grow my general knowledge which is something I highly value in everyone.
Learn how to love
Learn how to love and do it selflessly.
Love your family, life partner and friends with all your heart
Love them with all your heart and offer them your time because it’s the most precious gift, after actual gifts.
Invest more in travelling and cool experiences rather than shoes
Experience, travelling and embracing new cultures = that’s what life is about for me. Shoes and other goods are important too, but they come second.
Have relaxing moments with yourself
Run a bath, watch something relaxing, paint. Allow yourself to relax!
Find happiness in something good that you do
I recently discovered my passion for interior design. I design rooms on my Ipad or read about the subject online and it makes me so happy. I also love cooking healthy food and enjoy every mouthful!
Always aspire to grow on all plans
Grow and look at your performance.
Enjoy every single moment of your life
This one speaks for itself!
Show your appreciation to other sooner rather than later
Show appreciation as soon as you feel it! Don’t hide your feelings.
Don't judge and don't moan & groan
Stop judging and instead of complaining about situations, find positive things to talk about. You can’t change the past, can you? You can only focus on what’s to come.
For fellow bloggers out there, do your thing & people will love you
Express yourself and don’t be afraid to share your thoughts with the world. Stop obsessing about the numbers and just to you thing.